Sometimes we forget that the smallest gestures and words can carry the largest impact. Saying these daily phrases may not seem like a big deal, but we certainly do not want to underestimate the power they have to bring married couples closer together. Scripture says that “the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts.” (James 1:5) Life and death is in the power of the tongue (Proverbs 18:21). As a wife or husband, you have the ability to speak life into your marriage and home daily and stir your marriage in a healthy direction with the right words. Below are 8 daily phrases to say for a healthy marriage.
8 Daily Phrases to Say for a Healthy Marriage
“I Love You.” We can never say this enough. Don’t think that your partner will ever tire of hearing it. This can be said or shown in many different ways, but make sure your spouse knows that you love them each and every day.
“I appreciate you.” This can also coincide with “I’m proud of you.” Saying words of affirmation is a particular love language, but everyone needs to hear that they are supported from their spouse and biggest cheerleader. I love this quote from The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman, “The latent potential within your spouse in his or her areas of insecurity may await your encouraging words.”
“Please and Thank you.” You spouse will feel that you value them and their efforts more when words are accompanied with the respect of saying please and thank you.
“Good Morning and Good night.” It seems very simple. However, we shouldn’t take waking up each morning and going to bed next to our spouses each night for granted. Making this a habit first thing in the morning and right before you go to sleep let’s your spouse know that your connection is a priority. It can start the day and finish the day on a positive note.
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“I’m Sorry.” Ruth Bell once said, “A Happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers.” There are no perfect marriages. However, there is grace when we show up for one another in the marriage to confess our sins and forgive the sins our our spouse. Forgiveness allows you to be free from the root of bitterness, resentment, and hate.
“How can I help?” Jimmy Evans stated, “A successful marriage is two servants in love.” Make it a goal to out serve your spouse. Also, we should not assume what they need or act based off what we would want in a particular situation. This open-ended question allows for vulnerability, expose our heart, and allows each spouse to become better at communicating their needs.
“How was your day?” This is an opportunity to catch up and let your spouse tell their stories from the day. Showing genuine interest is part of building a solid trusting friendship. You want to know their highlights and or lowlights so you can know how to support them and gage their mood.
“Have a great day.” Let your spouse know that you are behind them and want to see them win in life. This simple phrase can go a long way, especially accompanied with prayer before the both of you walk through the door each morning. This is not just a cliché. This communicates that they have someone in their corner to do life with.
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